Last week we had some Real Talk on Aftercare with trailblazing educator, s*xologist, artist, and irritant to banality, Midori! founded Rope Dojo and ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Intensive. She penned the first English instruction book on Shibari, “Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage” in 2001, paving the way to the popularity of rope. Dan Savage calls her the “Super Nova of Kink,” while others affectionately call her Auntie Midori for her cool, tell-it-like-it-is, funny, reality-based teaching.
Midori is the Co-Director of Curriculum for Kink Informed Certification, part of Sexual Health Alliance, training therapists and helping professional to provide safe, compassionate, and inclusive service to their clients. She is the recipient of the 2022 Humanitarian Award from the American Association of Sex Educators Therapists & Counselors (AASECT) and 2022 Effing Foundation Grant, along with having honored with a Sainthood by the Sisters of Perpetual indulgence.
She is also the author of “Wild Side Sex,” “Master Han’s Daughter,” and “Silk Threads.”
Learn, laugh, and enjoy her special online classes, events, and art on patreon @PlanetMidori (this is where she is working on her next shibari book through this site!)
This episode covers SO many juicy topics!
Midori begins by differentiating between shame and guilt, and how it can manifest differently across cultures. She also shares her personal experiences of sexuality and how it intersects with her Japanese culture. Nika and Midori dive into the topic of kink, how it manifests in nature as a primal part of ourselves, and how it’s more prevalent in our day to day culture than we like to acknowledge (tune in for Midori’s hilarious sports reference!)
In theme with the show, Midori tells the audience the definition of aftercare, which varies for everyone in order to achieve equilibrium after play or a scene. She also explains the neuroscience behind “drops”. Most importantly, aftercare and drops apply to vanilla sex as well as tons of other non sexual activities! Midori then shares her tips for incorporating aftercare into one’s routine to preserve mental health and energy levels.
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This episode’s bonus content features a special BDSM terminology document that Midori shares, along with tons of juicy photos of her work, along with a shot from her book that was WAY ahead of its time. Don’t miss out!