To prepare for the upcoming Holidays, we hosted a 90 minute Home for the Holidays special featuring Kathleen Hearod and Rachel Grant, where we discussed resources that people can use to manage triggers related to family issues and child abuse that tend to come up at this time of year.
Kathleen Hearod is an advocate for healthy sexual life experiences and prevention of sexual trauma. Kathleen is the author of the book “Hurt People Help People” and “Things I Wish I Knew”. Kathleen is a sexual abuse survivor and minister. Kathleen helps individuals have conversations about preventing child sexual abuse with a focus on reporting. Kathleen also shares tools to help manage life after trauma and minimize long term effects of triggers including daily care, self-releasing and event care. All of Kathleen’s work is based on life experiences and guided practices she has used over the years.
Rachel is the owner and founder of Rachel Grant Coaching and is a Sexual Abuse Recovery Coach and M.A. in Counseling Psychology. She is also the author of Beyond Surviving: The Final Stage in Recovery from Sexual Abuse. Based on her educational training, study of neuroscience, and lessons learned from her own journey, she has successfully used the Beyond Surviving Program since 2007 to help survivors break free from the pain of abuse and finally move on with their lives.
The episode began by encouraging listeners to take emotional inventory: Rachel says that when we step into environments with people who have caused us harm, it can be easy to fall into feelings of helplessness. It’s important to remind ourselves that we are safe and empowered. Also, if we don’t have our nervous systems regulated, we can interpret harmless events as actual threats.
Kathleen encourages us to love and prioritize ourselves, and not feel guilty about it! Sometimes that means setting boundaries, saying no, or potentially looking “selfish” to others, but that’s okay and necessary when it comes to healing from trauma and taking care of ourselves.
Nika, Rachel, and Kathleen discuss a special exercise to help us distinguish between our past and present self, because when we’re activated in a traumatized state, we can sometimes regress into our childhood self and forget that we are adults with agency, power, and choice.
Our guests also dive into how to create a game plan before going to a potentially triggering event. Having a friend or family member as support can be helpful, as well as multiple backup plans and exit strategies. The more tools we have in our toolkit, the more prepared we can be to tackle tough events.
During this episode, our special guests also gave away special treats for our listeners.
Nika gave away a free coaching session, Kathleen gave away a copy of her book, “Hurt People Help People”, and Rachel gave away a ticket to her 28 day program: “Bootcamp for the Brain”
Kathleen’s book focuses on prevention and awareness, so that parents can have the tools to talk to their children and keep them safe. A core aspect of her book involves tackling the common myths about child abuse, especially the belief that someone’s title equals safety, along with other stereotypes about how child abuse happens. Her book also contains a link to an app that helps people report abuse.
Rachel’s Boot Camp for the Brain is a resource for people who need foundations for healing their nervous system. The program deep dives into the neuroscience of trauma, and tools, strategies, and exercises that people can use to take charge of their lives again.
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You can find more resources from Kathleen and follow her work at https://linktr.ee/khconsciouscoach
Order Kathleen’s Book: https://www.amazon.com/Hurt-People-Help-Lesson-Inappropriate/dp/1973559722/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3Q70J9PKI20Q8&keywords=hurt+people+help+people&qid=1669842299&sprefix=hurt+people+help+people%2Caps%2C214&sr=8-1
You can follow Rachel’s work at:
Check out her self-paced 28 day Boot Camp for the Brain: http://www.rachelgrantcoaching.com/services/